I’ve been thinking a lot about resolutions lately. It’s the first chunk of the year, so I doubt I’m alone in that regard. But I’ve been thinking about how much they suck. I think more apt name for “New Year’s Resolutions” would be “List of things I plan to fail at.” Seriously, committing to something for a full year is really kind of a heavy burden to take on for no apparent reason. I also think that these lists of things that we fail at create a significant amount of psychological damage, something none of us really need. We all fail, that’s simply a fact, and we need to come to terms with it, but I don’t believe being reminded of our failures is either healthy or useful.
If we are reminded of our failures we can begin to identify ourselves with those failures. Suddenly, it stops being “I failed at losing weight” and becomes “I am a failure.” No one needs that. I can speak from experience. A year or so ago I finally went to see a therapist and was diagnosed with dysthymia. Dysthymia is an interesting little quirk, if you’ve ever had a depressive episode, one where you sleep a little too much and the house gets messy, dysthymia is kind of like that. Well, if it lasts for years on end instead of a few days it’s like dysthymia. So, really, the last thing I need is motivation to not do stuff.
But goal setting is still a good thing, within reason. Good goals have certain qualities, they are quantifiable (“drink more water” is a bad goal), have time limits, and can actually be achieved. So, what I’ve decided to do is to have my “New Week Resolutions.” Each resolution will last a week, not a long time, really, but hey, I have issues with depression and motivation and I have to start somewhere. Each resolution has to be quantifiable, and has to be possible. (No, lose 30 pounds, type stuff.)
Technically, I started my little scheme a few weeks ago. The first week I did a set of exercises increasing the reps by one every day for the entire week. Go me. Week two, different set of exercises. Didn’t do a single day. bummer. But I figured I should go public with my idea, and quest for validation. So, here it is. Each week I will post the new weeks resolution, and if possible some sort of status update through the week. If not, then a summary post at the end of the week. And that’s that.
This week’s resolution is to write a letter to someone every day. Not an email, a letter. Things that go out in the mail. I’d like to include some sort of physical thingy that makes the use of the post a bit more mandatory, but I’m not going to push it.
Luckily, I’ve already got Monday’s letter written and in the envelope, so that’s one day down. Four to go (Oh, btw, I’m only counting the weekdays, which may change later.) I’ll let you know how the rest of the week goes.